What this world doesnt need more of are expectations. There are countless unrealistic expectations put on us everyday if we don't take vigilant care.
People expect things from us. We expect things from us. To have expectations of oneself or others is not abnormal. It's pretty normal. We expect a certain level of professionalism from our colleagues and a certain level of respect from loved ones and strangers.
However, sometimes expectations becoming over burdening. Sometimes expectations are unrealistic. People can be idealistic and expect others to be Wonder Woman/Superman with little or no communication about such expectations or support towards them being fulfilled.
Sometimes we become overburdened as we have not realized that we have/had expectations and they are not being met.
The coin can land on both sides. We can also place unrealistic expectations on ourselves if we are not careful.
So what am I saying?
Expectations are normal. To expect things is good when comuinication lines are clear and the expectations are realistic.
A concern that I have with expectations is that they can often replace affirmation.
So instead of focussing on the good we focus on the lack. Instead of focussing on ground gained we focus on what is absent.
I've found this true in a particular relationship. I was so needing someone to be x, y, and z that I couldn't appreciate the beauty of who they are/were. Were my expectations wrong? Nope. They were valid but I was denied access altogether to the beauty that that relationship could of been because I allowed myself to be focussed on the lack that I didn't see the gain.
So in concluding this long muling in my brain I must say that I am learning to be realistic about my expectations on myself and recognizing when unrealistic expectations are being placed on me. As an artist ideals come easily and so I need to be extra careful not to create and allow myself to be pressured of what could be but instead be affirmed on what I have done and the beauty that God has already placed in me.
May this be an encouragement to you!
You are enough.
You are smart.
You are you- and that in itself is reason to celebrate!
Love,
Phoenix and Sarah
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